9 October 2022

Hypocrisy of Marriage

Women want equality. And, yet they expect the man to propose to them. Rarely, does a woman propose to the man. Often, women take the last name of the man as their own after marriage. The father walks his daughter down the aisle and presents her to the groom. One never sees the mother walking her son down the aisle and presenting him to the bride. The woman dresses up in a bridal gown. The man dresses up in a suit. In certain religious ceremonies a dowry is even presented to the bride from the groom. But, not the other way around. Additional ritual ceremonies may be performed that are different between bride and groom. In some countries, the rights of a husband are different from the rights of a wife. Women don't appear to even have an issue with the reference to husband and wife. They don't even have an issue with labels of wo-man and fe-male. Eventhough, such terms are linguistic derivatives in the english language. Then after divorce the woman expects the man to give half of all his wealth. While the woman has no obligation to give anything. And, if they have kids the woman can expect financial support from the man but not the other way around. The legal rights of the mother and ex-wife are far greater than that of the father and ex-husband. What if they both work and earn an income? Women also want equal pay in the workplace. The legal system is in place to protect the rights of women but not so much for the rights of men. The ramifications of any changes towards equality impact the fabric of society in four dimensions: socially, legally, economically, and politically. These dimensions determine the way society projects the gender role disparities and differences. In fact, equal pay will have drastic effects on the breakdown of society and increase the struggles of women finding suitable men as partners in marriage and for starting a family. In most societies, women generally tend to have preference for men who provide both emotional and financial stability as well as enable them to climb the social ladder. As a result, it may have detrimental effects in the dynamics of social relationships, more likelihood of broken marriages, more children being brought up out of wedlock, and potentially more men avoiding the idea of marriage altogether.